Figuring it Out


Since I wrote articles for BLOOM and The Mighty I have been thinking a lot about accepting people’s help but even more so HOW do you let people know you need something as you struggle with a disability (mental health, developmental, health)?  I mean it’s easy for me to write that I want friends and family to help me at times but how do I let them know when that time is? What do I do for example when a co-worker asks in passing “How are you”? Do I start in on a long story about how my anxiety is really high and my depression medication has just been increased? I mean how weird would that be?

Truthfully I don’t know if I can be trusted at this point in my journey to ask for help. It’s hard enough for me to let down my defenses and admit to my husband that I am struggling. Even though I have just spent the last 3 days in bed my first instinct when he tries to talk to me is to downplay how badly I am feeling. I don’t know why I do this but at least I am aware now that I do.

So where does it leave me? I’m honestly not sure. I don’t want to hide my mental health issues but I also don’t want to be walking around over sharing and pushing mental health down people’s throats. I guess it is something I will keep pondering – please feel free to leave comments so I know I am not alone.

Disclaimer: I’m honoured by the outpouring of support following this post. Please know that while I am wondering about this topic I really am ok. I saw my Psychiatrist yesterday and my Psychologist tomorrow. It’s all good 🙂

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3 Responses to Figuring it Out

  1. Jean Petkac says:

    I just found your blog through a site for parents raising adopted and beyond difficult kids. You write so well, it’s as if you are writing about my life. I too feel like I want to write a book and I am by no means a writer, but have so much to say and would love to help others like us. I also think it would be cathartic. I am currently in thick muddy waters with our adopted son, it is a very lonely and scary place to be. Thanks for your blog.

  2. Jean – I’m glad you found me! It’s hard to find people in similar situations so I know how important it is. I hope you will stick around and add to the discussion.

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